Emotionally unavailable men: we've all been there. If you're going out with one - to quote NML from Baggage Reclaim - it's 'game over, no credits'. That's because it's all about him - his need for validation, approval, building his self-esteem through your inability to leave him no matter how badly he treats you...which says something about *your* self-esteem and your lack of emotional availability. And yes, in my case, it was the classic "I'm replaying my relationship with my father." They were emotionally unavailable, cold, critical, controlling, mocking, in a great deal of pain. They and my father would either have hated eachother or gotten on like a house on fire.
I'm done here.
But this entry isn't an attempt at analysis, since NML does a far better job than I ever could. This is because I've found the perfect expression of what going out with an emotionally unavailable man is like:
If you have to laugh or cry, it's always better to laugh...