tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33689950.post4142526810667947852..comments2023-09-24T13:36:00.981+01:00Comments on The night and half-light of dreams: Myself on the couch - what about marriage and me?Pragmatic Mystic http://www.blogger.com/profile/08877990361303745003noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33689950.post-18279841941429501172012-10-31T16:34:05.392+00:002012-10-31T16:34:05.392+00:00Loved this. And agree that marriage is indeed a sa...Loved this. And agree that marriage is indeed a sacred union, and always sad to see people marrying because they feel they "should" not because it's what they truly feel is the best choice. <br /><br />Thanks for this!Playful Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17851497836034113385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33689950.post-612435870538283692012-10-27T15:49:38.039+01:002012-10-27T15:49:38.039+01:00She'enedra,
For some reason, yours posted twi...She'enedra,<br /><br />For some reason, yours posted twice, so I've deleted the second one - so worry not!<br /><br />Yes. EXACTLY THIS. You cannot sanctify each other through lukewarmth, will, or grim determination. It HAS to be done through deep connection, passion, love. <br /><br />The state in and of itself is not a vocation; it can only become so through being married TO a specific person. To be cryptic - in a moirail way - Sacred Union. Ja?<br /><br /><i>I will not marry unless I think it is a sacred thing.</i><br /><br />THIS. I mean, it totally bugs me that marriage is the <i>default</i> in our society - if you've been together X amount of time, you marry. It shouldn't be. It should be reserved for something so deep and holy that it is rare and precious, and a true sign of G-d's love at work in the world. xxPragmatic Mystic https://www.blogger.com/profile/08877990361303745003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33689950.post-33386796812402254822012-10-26T22:59:56.785+01:002012-10-26T22:59:56.785+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.CEADhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04778999811353354648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33689950.post-16810359723702197112012-10-26T22:59:46.414+01:002012-10-26T22:59:46.414+01:00What I really love about this is that it captures ...What I really love about this is that it captures an essential most discussions of Marriage As Vocation I've seen don't. It's not a vocation To Be Married. It's a vocation to be married <i>to you</i>. The identity of the person you are marrying is so crucial. It makes all the difference. Marrying Some Random Person is not the same thing. How are you going to get the worship and sacredness if you're only doing it pro forma? There's no way you could get the depth that way. It would be, as you say, a mockery. <br /><br />I will not marry unless I think it is a sacred thing. I have always supposed that I was unlikely to find that kind of love in my life, and therefore I have always assumed I would not marry. And, although I would rather find it, I am okay with that.<br /><br />Ari.xxCEADhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04778999811353354648noreply@blogger.com